Anger & Fear !!!!

Anger, fear and jealousy are the worst of all emotions. They make our life miserable! Do you know what is anger? It is just temporary madness, a product of fear, but you can get a hold to it and move on with your life. Anger needs to be thrown out of your body, because suppressing the anger inside your body can harm you. Use this energy for good work. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way, but how we react to it all depends on us. Our life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Anger is a weak emotion, but with practice it can be controlled and used to make this world a better place to live. Anger is totally a normal human emotion, but when it gets out of control, it affects the quality of our life. Three main approaches to tackle anger are-                                                                                                           

1) suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour.
2) control your outward behaviour.

3) whenever you start getting angry, focus on something positive, so that you can calm down inside.                                                                                                                                                                               

Anger is one emotion that can destroy everything. It makes you lonely and fearful. When anger grips a person, he is not in control of his actions. Forces of anger and hate have always being organised , while forces of love and compassion have been disorganised. This is why we say -  Love is blind. Love and compassion are the best tools to deal with anger. There is nothing wrong with God's creation. Misery and suffering only exist in our mind. To have a body is to suffer; suffering is not holding you, you are holding suffering. It all depends on how you draw these burdens around you.   

                                                                                                      

Curiosity about the unknown has always been a fearful territory. It's like taking a ride on a roller coaster. You may fear it but you still seek the thrill. The fear of losing makes a person insecure, the fear of hunger makes a person greedy, the fear of being upstage makes you competitive. In short, fear is the most identifiable emotion in a human being. When a person goes to see a horror film, somewhere inside he is challenging his innermost fear, testing his limits to see how far he can go. Fear is a response to our life situations which takes away our confidence. Everyone experiences fear at some stage in life. We must understand that fear is wired into our body system by nature, it is a useful emotion that makes us choose the options that keep us safe. Everyone is trying to overcome  different types of fears -  failing in exams, losing money or body or himself! But as we know nothing is permanent in this world, we have to deal with this sensitive emotion very carefully. In our bid to play safe, we let ourself be enslaved by FEAR . It is only a fear of failure because we all want success and growth all the time, which is just not possible. 

Relationships!

Today, I want to talk about relationships. Most relationships that fail in today's scenario are the ones where everyone is begging for happiness. When two beggers get married, they become poorer. But if you start giving to each other, there would be magic. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. You are not the best at everything. So learn to accept each others faults and choose to celebrate each others differences. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship. We sometimes reach to a point where circumstances get out of control. We may not know what to do. I think this is a good time to do nothing. Just let go and watch. In relationships people do hurt each other and create misunderstandings. The result is bitterness, anger, frustration and what-not! This all causes unhappiness. Forgiveness is the only way by which we can end such bitter situations. A little more acceptance from your side can make your relationship very good and strong. There is no situation so bad that it can not be transformed into a good one. Everything in this world keeps on changing -  nothing is permanent. The same goes for such situations too. The best formula for a good relationship is - "Do the same for others as you want them to do for you". Be sincere and faithful, the key is to give without expectation. Relationships are for happiness and security. The very idea of relationships is to make our life more comfortable, peaceful, beautiful and happy. Relationships sour primarily due to ego but try not to allow your ego to (mis)use you. It is a tool if you know how to use it and it will give you many wonderful things. Our circle of belongings depends on the extent of our ego. Inability to compromise and forgive can create humongous problems in your relationship.life cannot  be without relationship, it also causes a sense of dependence and possessiveness but it has a glowing depth and joy which increases by the time . the most wonderful thing in life is to find a partner for the life time with which  you can make your own family.

Silence ...

When creation happened, there was silence. Silence is the most powerful sound of this cosmos Before you speak, you ask yourself - is it necessary, is it true or does it improve upon silence? Language is only an agent to express sentiments. Silence is not just the lack of noise, it is a the state that transcends speech and thoughts. It is a kind of meditation. Silence benefits the entire humanity in a subtle manner. It is a state when words cease and powerful thoughts begin to penetrate the deeper side of mind. In the light of silence, all problems dissolve. When you silence your mind, higher power of brain get activated. When you make your mind still, you are able to access higher energies from nature. Everything emerges out of silence and goes back into it. So, if you want to create some magic in your life, delve into silence for some time. This will evolve you and give you the deep knowledge of creation.

Look at the examples in nature - trees, flowers & grasses grow in silence. The moon, the sun and the stars, all move in silence. We also need silence to be able to touch souls. Silence is a source of great strength. Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refuse. I have often regretted my speech, but never my silence. Silence is the true friend that never betrays. It is the state of mind where our five senses are resting by the grace of wisdom and purity of mind. Silence is the first door of spiritual eminence. Silence is the most effective medical therapy known to mankind. It has the potential to cure mind,body and soul. the power of life and death lies in the tongue means words are so powerful that they can either build or destroy you. so we rather use words very carefully or be silent because silence is the best way to avoid so many problems of life .