DUALITY

this is the principle of life  everything in this UNIVERSE is created in polarities. this earth is made up of pair of opposites Duality is an essential characteristic of our planet . in our life everything is a set of opposites, if you keep digging and create a valley a mountain also gets created this is the nature in harmony so experience the life in all possible circumstances  good- bad ,dark- light, sweet -bitter don,t afraid of any kind of experience because they made you more mature  .don,t think that your life will always be an upward curve because it,s not possible every plus must be balanced by a minus .it,s either nothing or everything only because of duality , there are equal and opposite forces at every aspect of life. to understand darkness we need light , to know happiness we need to know sorrow. whenever you are miserable you gain sympathy or attention but whenever you are happy people become jealous from you this is called duality.duality is a means of division of subject and object  without which experiencing is not possible. a question and an  answer is only possible because of you and me . some paradoxes that color human life are-----( 1)- certainty and uncertainty . uncertainty provides growth while certainty provides order, both are needed for a complete life. ( 2 )- individuality and connectedness -   as a human being you are a unique individual and you need identity and significance but at the same time you feel isolated so you crave for connectedness.  ( 3 )- having and giving , need to consume and need to contribute, this life is a flow of things and there is an oscillation between giving and taking,. so we need both .duality is the basic for all phenomenal manifestations, the subject and object  relationship. equilibrium is the ultimate phenomenon of nature, imbalance always leads to destruction . earth provides enough to satisfy everyone,s need but not every men,s greed. every human being is born in an environment and bound to live a conditioned life, we may call it fate and no one can escape from it because it,s only god,s will we can,t do anything about it . conditioning is a phenomenon of thinking which can be changed with the capacity of mind. if you made sincere efforts and use your mind wisely you can do miracles and change all the conditions you born in .there are truly  two sides to every thing one is positive and the other is negative , both are related to the points of time according to need. how would you know there is silence ? because there is no sound 

DISCIPLINE OR LIMITATIONS

Discipline is very necessary for good health and happiness. Discipline means the capacity to be. we all have our limitations, these limitations differ from person to person. Actually discipline is to drop negativity and enhance positivity. Challenges help us to grow - so instead of being hamstrung by  these challenges, we should welcome them. Unless we are tested by circumstances, we do not know our own potential. Slowly we learn to let go and stay with things and people with whom we are comfortable. If we want to live a peaceful and purposeful life, we begin  to stay away from the activities that are stressful. Our limitations will teach us to be truly human. Nature provides us with the option of compromise as an effective means to achieve harmony and peace in times of emotional turmoil. We want to only receive all the time. Our greed knows no limits, limits cannot be mathematically defined. Only your heart has to tell you where to stop. Learn to listen to your heart and add value to your life. It is a question of overcoming ego and allowing for greater sharing. Discipline means willingly following some agreed upon rules. And it also means being polite towards your elders. Without discipline, a man cannot be successful in life. Hence there is a notable limitation and at the same time a strong possibility. Self control has great value in human behavior. It is a kind of a mutual adjustment and formula for success. A man who cannot gain control on his mind does not have self respect. Actually we create our own prison and get used to it. Are you getting bored with the repetitive pattern of your life? if yes than you will break the discipline and get out of your limitations , this is called risk taking or adventure.new generation is doing this because they don.t like discipline. but this is not a good sign for their future a Self disciplined person can enjoy the life without any harm. The only way to keep life exciting and dynamic is through the mind. So indulge in healthy hobbies, exercise and keep your mental juice flowing all the time. There is nothing more exciting than new ideas that keep you busy. It is a conscious effort to get uplifted. You will have to learn to live with your limitations. But there boundaries are often set by other people. In reality, human beings possess infinite potential but they also have certain weaknesses. Until they resolve them they face limitations. It is entirely up to your own choice. People talk about freedom but they want to remain in bondage because it has its own comfort and convenience  most of us tend to under estimate the power of routine but routine gives a structure to life . when you decide to organize your days you will lead a more meaningful  life. it,s only a way to a happy and successful life. our limitations are found within us but their boundaries are often set by other peoples. 

Don't Crib & Enjoy Your Life!

The nature of life is for things to rub against each other and create friction. We all get lost, we all make mistakes, we all get ill and eventually we all die. If you can accept this, you can relax in life. We experience ourselves in the things we love more. That is why when we lose the things we love, we feel very hurt. Everyone is faced with that choice at some point - when a person does not get what he/she wants, or when a loved one dies, either you can blame God or you can turn and face the fire. You can look honestly at yourself and enter into a process of change. If we tighten in fear, we hinder new life from being born. It's not easy to relax in pain but if you can do it, you can see new life being born. You are more precious than everything else, so always try to save yourself in any situation. When you have lost everything - even after that you have something left and that is yourself. So forget what is lost and take that which still exists for you, this is the best formula for attaining a happy life. 

There are some people who complain regardless. Complaining is a way of life for them & they cannot stop cribbing. Such kind of people do not take responsibilities for their actions. Their energy and intellect are so focused on finding faults, so they cannot focus on achieving their goals. So please stop cribbing about what you don't have and look what is there for you. When we complain and criticize constantly, we are inviting negativity in our life. 

The most senseless complains are -

1:  weather is too hot or too cold                                                                                           

2:  traffic is too bad                                                                                                                               
3:  nobody cares for me                                                                                                                     

4:  nobody appreciates me or nobody listens to me

                                                                                 

These are all negative thoughts of your mind. Please become less of a complainer and more thankful, than your problems will automatically dissolve. Instead of criticizing every situation, let us use our time in something productive because time is very precious. Nothing is more precious than time because time is equal to life. Wasting your time means wasting your life - so please take very good care of your time  EVERY ACTION IS HAPPENING ACCORDING TO A COSMIC LAW ".  it is not something done by any human being means we can't blame anyone for whatever happens in life. difference in views and thinking are deeply rooted in this universe ,if every body thinks alike what will be there to think but we have no right to think that i am always right because truth can be seen from many angles and expressed in many ways you must  have to except it  . when there are differences in opinion among people it paves the way for dialogue, which in turn foster creative and intellectual development hence differences are good for wisdom. God does not design people or circumstances according to our taste, so let others behave as they want -- this is not within your control any way so don't complain for anything and try to make balance with it . you are not an isolated entity in this world but an essential piece of puzzle of humanity so try to locate properly in this cosmic world. as you grow older your mind encounters rigid frames of -like,dislike,opinion ,fear, greed etc influenced by your background and we get imprisoned by what we know. your struggle is to see that the other people fits in to your views and this is very complicated way of living  and reason for complaining every thing and this is not good . actually the good and bad all live within us only our free choice determines the direction to go.let us respect the differences and recognize that we do not serve an ideology, we serve the people.

                                                                                     

Mental Health & Wellness

What comes to your mind when you think about mental health?

I'll tell you that your thought process is the key for your success along with your attitude and self confidence. Our body is the servant of our mind and mind is nothing but a bundle of thoughts. Thoughts play an important role in our lives. All physical activities originate from the mind, which is the prime mover of all activities. A healthy mind is the key to a healthy body - all successful people have sound mental health. Poor health is not caused by something you don't have, it is caused by disturbing something that you already have. Health always flows from the inner most to the outermost - if our mind is calm and clear, our body will stay healthy. Thought is a tremendous force that shapes our attitude, attitude makes our character and character influences our life. A positive attitude will prevent us from giving up. We cannot accomplish our best work when we are weighed down with negativity. 

In today's scenario, technology creates mental isolation, which that creates loneliness and loneliness creates frustration. Your mind can be trained to be calm through yoga and meditation and it will enhance your ability to survive in this world without frustration and tension. An obstacle in our mind is worse than obstacle in our path. First, still the body, then still the breath and finally still the mind - when the lake is still it reflects full moon. If we control our mind, all wisdom will naturally come to us. Our mind has unlimited reserves of energy we can do anything with the help of this energy. 

Our mind is like a monkey always jumping and hopping from one thought to another, so it needs discipline. purpose of life is to make the mind work for you not & against you. If you use it wrongly, it leads to misery but if you use it in a right way, you can reach the heights in any field. It only depends on you & how you use your mind. There is a little unique spark in everyone waiting for the right conditions to appear. 

Money has it's limitations but mind is limitless. When you are flowing you never feel tired. In fact, you feel more energetic, you grow wings & you can fly in the sky because your mind is happy. So always try to keep your mind calm and happy with the help of meditation and positive thinking. Our purpose of life is not simply to survive but to enjoy it. Your body is bound to become old but your mind will always remain young and you can lead a very successful life with the help of this wonderful tool called MIND.

Forgiveness!

"Where there is forgiveness, there is God Himself"

                                                   

The best deed of a great man is to forgive and forget. Forgiveness is the key that breaks the chain of bitterness. By forgiving the people who have done us wrong, we can give ourselves the greatest gift of  peace. This gives us an opportunity to start afresh or to do better next time. Forgiveness is a choice - so let go of the desire of revenge and commit to learn from our errors. Forgiving frees both - the forgiver and the forgiven, equally on a subtle level. Forgiveness saves your precious time and saves you to face more problems, it is an instant solution for any problem. Revenge always wastes time without any benefit. To forgive means to stop feeling angry, it has more to do with ourselves than others. It comes only when we move out of the negative mind set. Forgiving is the real victory, no relationship can survive without it. Parents always forgive their children no matter what they do. 

The way of this world is to find fault in others because everybody is dominated by the mind which is motivated by ego and this thinking leads us to criticize others. These critical remarks may upset us but it is not worth getting upset over the comments of others who have no value in our life. When we face criticism, we can take a hard look at ourselves and make some changes so that we become a better person. When you forgive anybody, you don't change the past but you sure do some change for the future. Mistakes are always forgivable. Every action you perform is like a boomerang, it always comes back to you, so don't waste your life in useless matters - there are so many good things to do. When someone hurts us, we have three ways to deal with it -

1) Express - we can express our anger, if we can do it calmly in a productive way.
2) Suppress it - we do not express anger and take it inside, but this might cause depression and stress. 3) Forgive - we are ready to move forward and don't want to stick in that moment.

Weak can never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of a strong person. Meditation is the best way to calm your mind and forgive all your criticizers.

Good Parenting & Childhood

Every child in this world is unique.

There is nothing to become, nothing to achieve - let individuality in the child grow. Acknowledge the potential within the child and help it to blossom to its full potential. Instead of making the child ambitious, you need to recognize the child's talents and nourish it in an atmosphere that encourages individuality. Children are new editions of fresh entries of divinity into life. They are born with the power of grasping fresh knowledge, which is optimum at birth and diminishes with age - so don't suffocate your children with restrictions. But you have to study their natural talent and give proper direction to their fresh energy. This is the best way to guide your children. 

Children have their own agendas and try to find out more and more about this world, however each child is nurtured by the goal of ambition through their parents and the society. The child has to prove himself by bringing gold medals and trophies in every field. Is it possible for a little child? 

In this race not everybody can taste success and reach the top. So millions of others are bound to develop negativity. Ergo, I think that ambition is a poison and it is more dangerous than any kind of alcohol and drugs. It often destroys the life of child and make him move in the wrong direction. Why should we make talent a grade to judge the child? Why should we not take it as nature of the child. 

Respect, justice, love and liberty - if we teach our children these concepts at the age of six or seven, they will keep it for the rest of their lives. The greatest legacy we can give to our children is not money but a legacy of character and faith. Any personality begins to form in childhood and to the time one reaches maturity. So good parenting is the real base to form good and charming personalities.

Faith - The Oxygen of Life

Faith is to believe what you do not see. You are nothing with the potential of everything. Faith is your inner conviction. Faith helps you remain positive. So never lose faith in yourself - you can do anything in this universe. 

If we have faith, nothing is impossible. Faith is not something to grasp. It is a state to grow in. It has been repeatedly proven that the things of this world and our own possessions will not be sufficient to keep us happy. People are getting increasingly addicted to a materialistic culture. In the race for bigger and better, we tend to neglect relationships. We forgot to love one another. Love is the binding force that makes us feel connected and secure. Love is the oxygen which sustains positivity and compassion. 

Do not limit yourself. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe you can achieve. Faith is the force by which man lives in this society. In the absence of faith, you cannot move forward in life. Faith can move mountains. Nothing is possible without faith. It is the greatest blessing that God can bestow upon us. Faith is the spirit that gives us stability and equanimity. Faith is the ray of sunshine that lights up the dark. Faith is a beautiful fragrant flower that blooms even in suffering. But faith without work is dead. Faith is the power which helps us in connecting with the supreme. You are as young as your faith and as old as your doubts. Faith brings the finest moments in our darkest hours. Man is made up of faith. Faith is composed of the hearts intention. Light comes through faith. Having faith has advantages like the sense of purpose and direction and the strength to deal with challenges of life. Faith is the divinity within you. Faith helps us to hold our mind in times of difficulties. Faith is the energy that can make things happen. Faith is the self confidence that gives mental courage and ultimately makes the body strong to face the adversities of life. In extreme pain, faith gets shaken.

Violence

"Violence is not the nature of man, it is his choice!"

Beasts are violent by nature, while man becomes violent by circumstances. There is a great streak of violence in every human being, it will break only in anger and war. Violent actions are the louder expressions of thoughts of mind. Today, we are living in times of increasing violence, we may never be strong enough to be entirely non-violent in thought but we can keep non-violence as our goal and try to progress towards it. Violence towards self also makes us miserable. When a person does not meet his demands he ignores  positive aspects of self  and torture himself ,his focus is only to avoid the pain and this may results in suicide,which is increasing dangerously in these days .usually young generation use it as a short cut .violence is only the battle between good and evil forces and non-violence is a powerful weapon  which can cut everything without wounding. violence is not to be reacted with violence but the transformation of that heart is only the solution. be good to them who hates you .weapons used for violence has to be turn into instruments for agricultural use.the five forms of violence comes from-lust,anger,greed ,ego and attachment connected to the feeling of desire. violence takes away your soul,s peace. violence is not merely killing another it is also a violence when we use a sharp word ,when we make a gesture to hit a person violence never made anyone benefit.fear pleasure sorrow and violence all are inter related. If we know how to look at violence not only outwardly in society but also in ourselves, then perhaps we shall be able to go beyond it. When you call yourself an Indian, Muslim, Christian or anything else, you are being violent - it means you are separating yourself from the rest of mankind. So we can say that violence is a fact that exists in every human being. According to me law is against the individual and for the cowards. Criminals are not responsible for their crimes - actually they inherit that tendency. It is because of lack of guidance when a person is dealing with overactive hormones in teenage years - so punishing is not fair because that person needs sympathy, love and help. He actually needs some kind of meditation and deep cleaning of mind. In my vision, the court will not consists of law experts, they will consist of people who understand human nature, so every unique criminal can find his way and we can transform him into a good citizen.