Letter to my Daughter

I wrote a letter to my daughter on her birthday. She lives in Mumbai, so I can't meet her on every memorable day of her life but I want to thank this good source of communication by which we can keep in touch with our loving ones. Also want to share this letter with you-

   
Dear Priyanka,

          It's been 30 years since you set foot in this world. When I held you for the first time in my arms at the hospital , your tiny hands were twitching and your eyes were shut tight. Your clenched fist reminded me of a science lesson that taught us how to get an idea about the size of your heart. I could imagine the little heart throbbing inside you. The eternal miracle of birth.

          I feel there are two ways to raise you. One is to wean you on cynicism and live your life pouring scorn on everything you see. The other way is to prepare you to live in this world. Life is very precious and equally fragile. So every day is a gift enjoy it and follow your heart. The mind can waver but the heart seldom does. When you grow up,seek a job you love. Don't be overwhelmed about money. It's important for living but it has it's place. Don't make the mistake of putting it right on top.

         Find your love, hold it dearly. Be a good wife, a patient mother and give your children space to make their mistakes. But hold them when they fall. But for this you have to give birth to your own child. This is the right time baby and this will give strength to your love for life. Give more importance to family than work.This is where happiness lies. At the end of the day, if you are not satisfied as a person, what have you done in your life. Live for today, want to be happy and keep everybody happy around you.

         
 LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF

         You never allow yourself to take off from work because you think everything would collapse without you around to hold it. Please go easy on yourself, Learn to Love yourself. Do you care for your mind and body as if they are the most precious things in your possession. When your attitude is - This is what I am, accept me or leave me. This also encourages you to accept those you love as they are, without attempting to change them. Let them live their dreams as we live ours. Despite living different dreams, we can still be together with our loved ones. In fact probably in a far more meaningful manner.What could you do to feel happy, here are some tips for you--

• Identify what makes you happy. 
• Compete with yourself..
• Don't expect everyone to agree with you.
• Live life according to your beliefs without inconveniencing others and be happy.
• Live in the present, the past is dead and gone.
• Increase the sources of your happiness- gardening, exercising, meditating, singing etc.
• Limit your desires otherwise you get caught in the vicious spiral of infinite wants.
• Forgive and forget. Forgive your opponents who played dirty games with you.
• Keep your curiosity alive.
• Spend time with young company. Their happiness is infectious and costs nothing.
• Share your smile with love.

Love,
Mumma

Life is a Gift, enjoy it before it ends

In every difficulty there is an opportunity. Life is really a choice........

   If one door closes another door opens.Question is indeed a sign of strength, but quietness may also help you to achieve strength. Silence is the language of God. Whatever happens will happen, but it's very important to value every minute of your life because you got to live it just once. To live best for yourself ,you must live for others too. Never hurt others by your actions. To build lasting relationships is not an easy thing to do because we always keep looking for comfort zones. This is a grave mistake. A selfless mind can only create a good relationship.

    Self realisation activates our innerself, yet it is entirely our own choice to follow the right or wrong path. Desires are like rubber bands. Once a desire is fullfilled, the mind produces many more desires. Then the mind stretches itself and we get tensed. It is very difficult to get rid of anger, greed, jealousy etc but not impossible. Good qualities appear difficult to cultivate, it takes great effort. Our mental structure is based on this process of choice, so our life is a series of struggles. Joy and misery, pain and pleasure happens only within you. So why try to extract joy from outside.What great things you achieve in your life will depend on your capabilities, the situation and the time.When you came in this world, you came with no investment so whatever happens in your life, anyway you are in profit .Most people live their lives without even knowing what it is that they really want for themselves, they are just settling for whatever is easy, whatever is within their reach.What we want as the highest in life need not have anything to do with our present situation. If you have a clear vision for yourself, it is not beyond your capacity to create it. You give your life towards it .This is one of the easiest way to attain the highest.

   The body is mortal and always held by death .It is the self which is immortal and held by pleasure and pain. So as long as self is in the body you can't get free from pleasure and pain.When self is free from the body then there is neither pleasure nor pain.

Shake Hands With Life!

Life is for living, learn to live life as it is. It is unrealistic to accept success and profit all the time. It is true that disappointment, pain and suffering have made life difficult, but they also made us stronger. During a crisis, we do need emotional support from family but if it is not available, it is necessary to find it within. Everyone lives his life without knowing what is the real purpose of life. The conscious mind has unlimited capacity for thinking and analysing facts. Nature gave us a tool known as mind and from this mind our discovery begins. When we go inside ourselves, we can discover our potential, our capabilities and our nature. We must organize our lives with our minds. 

By education, we can learn to maintain the systems, the cultures and the religions but there is no school which teaches how to smile, how to organise our emotions, how to work with our minds. This process is based on self awakening. When we are awakened, we begin to live with wisdom. Every problem carries a solution along with itself. If the problem is inside, the solution is also inside, but we need patience to discover it. Don't live a life with ignorance, live with awareness, live with knowledge! Only then you can fulfill the purpose of life.

Even a hundred years of life is too little. Sleep takes away half of it and the other half is expended in childhood, disease, misery, old age etc. Then how much of it can be actually utilized to achieve the purpose of life. We are apt to take things too leisurely thinking that the whole of life is before us. In truth, the time we have is too little. So enjoy every moment of your life, shake hands with life!

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today? Today is a gift and that's why we call it as "present".

Sweetness is the secret of beautiful life. Obstructions and difficulties are challenges to growth.

Happiness:-)

Happiness is not the aim of life. Happiness is a consequence, a fruit. It is a subject of the senses. The scope of the senses is limited and completely unaware of the greatness of life. As your understanding develops, you begin to see that happiness is not everything. 

Health is the best of all happiness. The secret of health is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future but to live in the present moment. Happiness does not come as a result of getting something we don't have, but by appreciating what we do have. If a man moulds himself according to the circumstances, then only he can acquire happiness.

Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get. Happiness is a state of mind. When the mind is in a tranquil state, you are happy. As you reduce desires, your happiness increases. When you achieve one thing, another thing comes in its place. This goes on all your life. Appreciate and enjoy what we have got. Happiness lies in the belief that there is a reason for everything that happens to us, good or bad.

                 have you wondered why some people go through life very smoothly while others face all kind of challenges. because  happiness does not exists in this world only you can find it within. happiness of our life depends upon the quality of our thoughts not upon the external things . the happiest people does not necessarily have the best of every thing , they just make the best of every thing they have . essence of life is that you will know how to play the game of life well and effortlessly. happiness is like a seed that grows into a plant . an apple tree can yield an apple tree , it cannot become a mango tree, similarly  a negative action will only results in sorrow it cannot give happiness. if you want happiness , you must sow happy seeds. happiness is an eternal quality of soul no body and nothing can make you unhappy except your mind. here are some points come in my mind that can make people happy and they are ------1  first and foremost is the good health,you can never be happy without good health.     2-- a healthy bank balance , because every thing for happy life depends on money.   3-- an understanding companion .  4--cultivate a hobby that will fulfill your life.   5--stop envying those who have done better than you in life. 6-- don,t loose your temper.  7 -- every morning and evening at least.     devote fifteen minutes to inter action with you loved ones  , the best way to increase happiness is to share it with others .pleasure is derived from something out side  while joy arises from within . happiness lies in hands of each individual and does not depend on anything else.