How to deal with difficult situations in life

It is my birthday today! 

I miss my husband very much today. Although I miss him everyday, but my birthday was very special for him. He always took a good sari for me on this day and pampered me. Now it's more than two years I have been living without him. After my husband's death, now I can very well realise the value of my children. This was the best and a very precious gift that my husband gave me in his life time. Children make our life meaningful and this is the only reason for which I yearn to live and take care of my children. I have three children, two girls and a boy - all of them are so responsible and sensible I really feel very proud about this. After such a sudden and shocking experience, they suddenly became so mature and responsible. My elder daughter is married but younger daughter and son are studying so I have a big responsibility to settle them in their lives. I know I can do it and I will.

   

Instead of criticizing any situation, let us use our time in something productive - this is the funda of my life. Complaining is a terrible habit, those who complain constantly do not wish to take responsibility for their actions. So please stop cribbing about what we don't have and look what is there for us. Our mind cannot be satisfied with either this or that, so never complain and try to utilize your mind in difficult situations. When we are going through the best phase of our life we never ask God - why me, because we take it for granted but if we lose our loved ones - we think why is this happening to me alone, our pain becomes unbearable due to the impact of the situation on us, we don't even recognise that this is an integral part of life's evolution. We need to cultivate the faith that this is the darkness before dawn and it will accelerate our personal growth. Main fear in such a situation is that how will I survive without any support in this big universe, but these setbacks are only the fear of our senses and to overcome that fear, we have to be very strong inside only then we can face the situation and cope up with this very intelligently and smoothly. I think when you lack inner strength, always put your energy into growing not griping. When you gain your inner energy you will become immune to external challenges. I have always believed that whatever good or bad fortune may come our way, we can always give it meaning and transform it into something of value. This in our inner power, it makes us confident so that we can deal with any kind of situations in life.every body in this world goes through crises, insecurities ,illness etc. complications arises most often because we take things personally and too seriously . a rigid approach that expects things in a specific way only makes the matter worse. get rid of negative thoughts from your mind and  become  less complainer and more thanks giver than your problems will automatically dissolved. here are some points for overcoming very painful situations of life-----1 ) faith --    we need to cultivate faith that what ever going on is the darkness before dawn and it will accelerate our personal growth. 2) this is the law of universe you can,t change it , so try to learn a new lesson from any difficulty.  3) main fear from these setbacks is to survive without support, so try to become strong inside to cope up with the situation.every day is a new birth in time -holding out new beginnings, new possibilities and new achievements. the secret of both mental and physical health is not to mourn for the past , not to worry about the future but to live in the present moment .