Pushpa Khandelwal's Blog

It is my birthday today!  I miss my husband very much today. Although I miss him everyday, but my birthday was very special for him. He always took a good sari for me on this day and pampered me. Now it's more than two years I have been living without him. After my husband's death, now I can very well realise the value of my children. This was the best and a very precious gift that my husband gave me in his life time. Children make our life meaningful and this is the only reason for which I yearn to live and take care of my children. I have three children, two girls and a boy - all of them are so responsible and sensible I really feel very proud about this. After such a sudden and shocking experience, they suddenly became so mature and responsible. My elder daughter is married but younger daughter and son are studying so I have a big responsibility to settle them in their lives. I know I can do it and I will.     Instead of criticizing any situation, let ...

Faith is your inner conviction. In reality, you are nothing with the potential of every thing. Never lose faith in yourself. You can do anything. Faith is not something to grasp, it is a state to grow in. If we have faith in ourselves, nothing is impossible. It is the energy that can make things happen. It is the greatest blessing that God has bestowed upon us - if you have faith in God you can live in stability and equanimity. Faith is the spirit that sustains life, it is the ray of sunshine that lightens up life. A beautiful fragrant flower that blooms even in suffering. But faith without work is dead. It is being repeatedly proved that the things of this world and our own possessions will not be sufficient to keep us happy. People are getting increasingly addicted to a materialistic culture. In the race for bigger and better, we tend to neglect relationships, we forget to love one another. It means people are becoming more selfish. So in the absence of faith, you can't move for...

LEAD SUCH A LIFE ,that when you die ,people may mourn you and while you are alive they love your company.if you can dream it you can do it. Love is the strongest thing in this world. stronger than hate ,stronger than death.Love is not an emotion but a choice.love creates the opportunities to heal wounds and to find peace.Love is infectious and the greatest healing energy,wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion. Love is our nature when love fills us and overflows in to our words it becomes compassion.compassion is loves fragrance,Love is complete in itself and does not need to be supplimented by anything.Genuine love essentially commits itself -first giving the best from the heart with no expectations of return. The spirit of god works within man to produce love that does not keeps a record of wrongs because love is unconditional. We experience ourself in the things we love more,that's why when we lose something we love we feel hurt or unhappy. so we are not just ...

Anger, fear and jealousy are the worst of all emotions. They make our life miserable! Do you know what is anger? It is just temporary madness, a product of fear, but you can get a hold to it and move on with your life. Anger needs to be thrown out of your body, because suppressing the anger inside your body can harm you. Use this energy for good work. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way, but how we react to it all depends on us. Our life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. Anger is a weak emotion, but with practice it can be controlled and used to make this world a better place to live. Anger is totally a normal human emotion, but when it gets out of control, it affects the quality of our life. Three main approaches to tackle anger are-                                                         ...

Today, I want to talk about relationships. Most relationships that fail in today's scenario are the ones where everyone is begging for happiness. When two beggers get married, they become poorer. But if you start giving to each other, there would be magic. Life is full of imperfect things and imperfect people. You are not the best at everything. So learn to accept each others faults and choose to celebrate each others differences. In fact, understanding is the base of any relationship. We sometimes reach to a point where circumstances get out of control. We may not know what to do. I think this is a good time to do nothing. Just let go and watch. In relationships people do hurt each other and create misunderstandings. The result is bitterness, anger, frustration and what-not! This all causes unhappiness. Forgiveness is the only way by which we can end such bitter situations. A little more acceptance from your side can make your relationship very good and strong. There is no s...

When creation happened, there was silence. Silence is the most powerful sound of this cosmos Before you speak, you ask yourself - is it necessary, is it true or does it improve upon silence? Language is only an agent to express sentiments. Silence is not just the lack of noise, it is a the state that transcends speech and thoughts. It is a kind of meditation. S ilence benefits the entire humanity in a subtle manner. It is a state when words cease and powerful thoughts begin to penetrate the deeper side of mind. In the light of silence, all problems dissolve. When you silence your mind, higher power of brain get activated. When you make your mind still, you are able to access higher energies from nature. Everything emerges out of silence and goes back into it. So, if you want to create some magic in your life, delve into silence for some time. This will evolve you and give you the deep knowledge of creation. Look at the examples in nature - trees, flowers & grasse...

You are not here accidentally, you are here meaningfully. There is a big purpose behind you. We all have come on this earth for some days to play, we are a guest on this earth so every body has to go from here after some time. Body is an instrument by which we can act and play our role on this planet. The whole of your life from the moment you are born to the moment you die is a process of learning. This whole process of accumulating information gradually becomes our knowledge, which is essential at certain level of our life to find a way through all the turmoils. We have to cultivate the feeling to see how the knowledge is used for a good purpose. Price is what you pay, value is what you get! Life is always miserable - when you know your own value, you will not cry in any situation. Greatest challenge of life is to find who are you. Being happy with what you have and eliminating desire will make you free from stress. Every body is born with a gifted talent - identify it and i...

What do you mean by age? It is nothing more than a number. This is only the time we spend on this earth from the moment we are born. As we proceed on the pathway of life, we gain so much of knowledge and experience. That's why the older generation is more experienced than the new generation. Is there any science to live agelessly?. No, it is an art!  Looking good and ageing well are an essential part of our life. Growing old need not be a graceless process. In fact it is important to retain grace as we age. A comfortable old age is the reward of a well spent youth. The most beautiful makeup of a women is passion. It is essential that we keep seeking knowledge - learn a foreign language, music, do sudokus or solve crosswords; do anything to keep your neural pathways firing. It keeps you young. Exercise daily to keep your joints flexible. Yoga is excellent for anti-ageing. Age is strongly related to your state of mind. There are people in their 70s who are more active than ...

My husband's death was such a sudden shock for me. I couldn't even understand the situation; I was totally numb. "What will happen now, I don't even know how will I survive without him" - such were the questions bouncing in my mind. But after sometime, I realised the situation and took this shock as a stepping stone of my life. Shock is a great educator, it sets the process of brainstorming and then a whole new mindset takes shape in us, a new human personality emerges. Shock stimulates your mind and unfolds your hidden potential. So this is only the greatest positive factor in our life. Actually shock is not an accident, it is the language of nature that speaks in the language of shocks. Shock treatment is the law of nature -  you may call it a challenge or a nature call. If you are facing some problem in life, don't be negative because nature always tries to give you a lesson to unfold your hidden potential. If you use it wisely, it can turn your failure...

Success in every sphere of life is almost everyone's ambition. Light is shallow, darkness is deep. Light is always bounded, darkness has no boundaries. Light comes and goes, darkness is always there. Light can be created, darkness can't be created - it is eternal. All this is the same as success and failure. Situations are never the source of failure. It is not the impulse of external which is hurting you but your inner translation is the real cause of pain. Failure always appears to help you to progress; never mind how hard you fall, always remember to pick up and get back on your feet because success lies in being able to get up every time you fall. One who is well armed for the battle of life and possesses good qualities becomes successful and prosperous. A single minute success pays for the failure of years.  No matter how dark the night may be, one small lit candle can dispel the darkness!